Is God Mad At Me?

Something just does not feel right. As you survey the past few weeks, you cannot see any offense on your part, but the relationship seems strained.

Your walk with God is consistent, you actively participate in ministry, and your life is free from habitual or un-confessed sin. Yet, life is not going so hot. May be it is a job loss, an expensive car repair, or a loved one with a health need. Whatever the case, things do not add up.

So you ask, “God, is everything ok? Did I do something wrong?”

We are often quick to throw Job under the bus for doubting God’s goodness, but let’s face it, it is hard to divorce our circumstances from our relational standing with God.

And why should we? “Obedience brings blessing, and disobedience brings consequence,” is a pervasive concept in the Old Testament (and not altogether missing from the New). Furthermore, all of our earthly relationships seem to operate under this unstated theorem.

This is where we have to catch ourselves. While treatment from our earthly ties generally mirrors our relational standing, treatment from God never does. My standing before God does not fluctuate with my obedience. It does not falter with mood swings. According to the book of Ephesians, it stands firm in my position in Jesus Christ.

In Christ I stand:

  • Redeemed (1:7-14)—once wallowing in slavery to sin and the Law, but now released into freedom.
  • Regenerated (2:1-10)—once dead in sin, but now born again into a new life.
  • Reconciled (2:1-22)—formerly estranged from God and alienated from His grace, but now freely forgiven in a permanently restored relationship.


We must remember,

“My right standing with God is revealed by His character, not my circumstances.”

–P. Mayes

How can remembering your position in Christ encourage you in seemingly unwarranted circumstances?



  1. I know it’s easy to point out finger at God when things doesn’t turn out the way we want or expect. Nonetheless I’m always reminded of my stand by this: He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly. (Prov 13:24)

  2. I have to constantly remind myself that my joy and my value is not based on how I feel. They are based on the objective facts of what Christ has done for me. Remembering that and dwelling on that then often changes my emotions, so that I will begin to feel that closeness once again.

  3. Noah,
    Thanks for the post. This week my apartment was full of smoke from a protein fire of sorts… Nothing was destroyed, but everything is smoke damaged. My landlord hasn’t returned any phone calls in order to start the cleaning. It has been a frustrating weekend to say the least, but these truths are exactly the things that I have been able to cling to in this time. Thanks for the reminder! 

  4. True that, Noah!  We come to God so often like a beat-up, neglected puppy dog, ashamed of our existence.  Meanwhile God is busy throwing our redemption party and trying to make it clear that we are to boldly approach the throne of grace!  Sweet insight.

  5. I have seen this as a huge issue in many people’s lives, mine included. When things get tough, it’s hard not to assume that God is punishing you for something you did or didn’t do. If there isn’t sin in my life causing the issue, and I have been consistent in my time with him, I remind myself of my identity in Him. I read scripture. I worship. I remind myself that sometimes God veils Himself to draw me deeper into Him.

  6. This is a much needed post for me. I’ve been going through a lot this season. It’s only because of God’s grace, power, and love that has allowed me to get through the situations.

  7. Lynnae Lawson says:

    My freshmen year of college God suprised me by bringing me through I trial that I would not have chosen for myself. For six months I struggled with the question that you used to title this post. Then I went to camp where I had to counsel a young lady who had experienced a similar situation. God grabbed ahold of my heart and reminded me that His will for my life is best (Jer. 29:11; Rom. 8:28), but He also reminded me that He does “exceeding abundantly above all that I ask or think” (Eph. 3:20). As I have read through the New Testment this past month, God has reminded me that trials are a mark of Christianity. Faith grows through trials (Gal. 3). Job may have questioned God, but he remained righteous becasue he knew that “the Lord gave, and the Lord hath tanken away” and he blessed the name of the Lord (Job 1:21-22). 

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